Was it a good year for you, 2019? I recently spoke with a coaching client whom I’ve worked with for a couple of years. She lamented about what a challenging year it was for her. She didn’t feel like she accomplished much. The same week I spoke with a friend who said the same thing. “I’m so happy to see 2019 go.” … Read More
So, You Want To Start Your Own Business
I hear many people talk about wanting to start their own business for a variety of reasons. Certainly, many people do and are quite successful at it. Not everyone is cut out for being business owners. A lot has been written about it. Here are some ideas to pay attention to and some pitfalls to avoid. Characteristics of Entrepreneurs: There … Read More
NLP Holiday Management Toolkit
Listen to Podcast #26 to hear James and Susan talk about how to make your holidays the best ever! Toolkit Checklist: Create an achievable outcome for the type of experience you want to experience this holiday season. You can do this for yourself or your involve your family Stop living from what you think is expected of you. Do what … Read More
Well-formed or Achievable Outcome questions
What do you want? What will that do for you? What stops or prevents you from getting what you want? When, where, what, with whom do you want it? Not want it? Do you want this in other situations? How will you know when you have what you want? What will you … Read More
The Fallacy of Putting Things Off
There is never enough time or money; this much is said. The fallacy of putting things off is exposed in studies by Dr. Gal Zauberman of UNC and Dr. John Lynch of Duke. They found that future expenditures of time are always psychologically discounted – that is, a future disbursement of time seems to be worth less than an outlay … Read More
Mysteries of Grief: What People Might not Know about Grief
This article is about any loss. Lately several of my friends have lost pets; a few have lost jobs. The reason I would even talk about this in a public forum is because I, as an NLP Trainer, encourage my clients to heal the relationships they have with their family members, if at all possible. Because for me, success … Read More
The Downside to using Body Language to Build Rapport
In the early days of NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) people got the idea that they could get people to do what they wanted to do by matching and pacing body language. I do agree initially people feel comfortable with people they PERCEIVE are like themselves (hence, matching body language) AND if they feel comfortable they will most likely listen. However, it doesn’t … Read More
Up Front and Personal: Money Scam
For trainers, consultants and coaches… This recently happened to me. I’m reporting on it so that you can be aware and recognize it for what it is: a money scam. About 10 days ago, someone (I’m assuming it was a man. He said his name was Steve. He wanted coaching for 4 people in his family. Here are the emails … Read More
Solve Communication Nightmares
One of the most important part of your business (or social) communication is understandability to eliminate guess work on the part of the listener. Have you included enough information in your email or other written communication to specify what you are talking about and what is involved, such as days, dates, and time? The following is told from the viewpoint … Read More
Language of Success: Power of Language
We live in language the way fish live in water. It is transparent to us. We are aware that we speak and listen but not aware of how it shapes our world. When an astronomer points out distinctions about stars we are able to see galaxies, planets, constellations where before they were just a bunch of stars. Understanding language provides a … Read More